For the last week I've been at camp in Nebraska with just over 100 middle school students. Yep. I am crazy. I know. I walked away ... more like limped away... from the week with no less than a dozen bruises, a decent tan, and no voice.
One of my students said, "I just want a boyfriend. I don't even know why. I just... feel like I need one."
So she found one.
She's not searching for a good guy. Or even a cute one. Any one will do.
Girls love being loved. And they're looking for it to be the thing that defines them.
Who are they without a boyfriend?
Who are they without someone who constantly pays attention to them?
Who are they if no one wants them?
And so we throw ourselves at guys. We hope that they like us back. We flirt. And smile. And see who responds. It doesn't matter if the guy isn't a good guy. It doesn't matter if he's cute. It doesn't even really matter if we like him or not.
What matters is... we're loved. Someone cares about us. Texts us. Calls to say hi. Wants to hold hands. Pays attention.
Unfortunately.... they all fail.We all do.
Because ultimately what gives us our identity isn't who we're with.
It's Who we were made by.
And I'm not always good at remembering that either. But I'm not in middle school anymore. My relationship status doesn't define who I am.
Jesus defines who we are.. Though at any age that sometimes is tough to understand.. My heart goes out to those ladies that they will see their true identity and not feel like they have to give their heart out to every person who walks by to feel Loved.
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